Wednesday, January 17, 2007

it takes one to know one

Now that I am a mom, I have a new appreciation for moms. Now, I'm not saying that I never appreciated my mom, but I think that I understand my mom more now. I think I also have a better understanding of what it means to be a mom now too - not really because I'm a mom to Josh, but because I've seen the way my mom and Brian's mom have helped me as a new mom.

My mom and dad stopped their lives in Toronto for 2 months to come to Vancouver and help us. I'm not saying that my mom was the only one helping - my dad helped out tons too. But my mom and I had some really good talks about parenthood and raising a family that I could never really understand before. We are completely indebted to my parents for making the sacrifice to come out here for us. However, I know that my parents will never ask for anything in return. It's just something parents do. I understand what that means now. Thanks, Mom and Dad.

I see Brian's mom almost everyday too. She comes to our house everyday because she has to pick up Brian's dad. When I was working, she would sometimes come into the house and read, but most times, I think she sat in the car and waited for Brian and his dad to come back from work. Since I've been home, she comes in and visits for a bit everyday. At least once a week, she brings dinner and we all have dinner at our place. On those nights, she also helps out with Josh. We never had to ask. It's just something mom's do. As an aside, Brian's mom also goes to her daughter's house almost every night to help get the twins (now 6-months old) bathed and down to bed.

I feel so indebted to both my moms for everything they've done for us. And they never ask for anything in return because it's just something mom's do. Well, I just want you to know how much I appreciate all the love and support you've given me. Thank-you.

My mom with Josh on the day he was born.




Brian's mom feeding Josh at 2 months old.

2 comments:

Margaret Van Dop said...

DATE: 1/18/2007 2:55:47 AM
Thank you, dear Yvette, for those beautiful thoughts, written so lovingly. It goes without saying that it is always my greatest pleasure to be there for you, Brian, and Josh. My love is boundless for all of you, as it is with all my family (who, by the way, is the BEST!!) It is so heartwarming to watch as you develop all these new skills in the journey of motherhood...keep up the great work!! Hugs and love,
Mom Van Dop (good pictures)

Stefan van der Veer said...

DATE: 1/31/2007 8:39:19 AM
Hi guys! Hope you are having fun still, that the sleepless night will pass and that you will have time enough to enjoy Joshua as much as possible. Time will fly, believe me. Check our Joshua and you can tell!!

We are planning to come over this summer (i.o. Christmas) and we really hope we can visit you.

All the best. Thanks for the great way of describing your thoughts Vet. I think that, only when you have kids yourself, you can fully and totally understand what it is to say I love you to your own child and only then fully understand why your own parents said the same thing to you. Now you can finally 'feel' the same as they did holding you in their hands...


Stefan, Rochelle, Eline, Noah and Joshua