if a picture is worth a thousand words...

...then these 2 pictures are screaming something...

to hair is human

I'm not sure how Josh's hair growth ranks on the too much - too little scale. I'm guessing he's about average since I've seen babies his age that still have peach fuzz and others that would have hair down to their shoulders if their parent's hadn't cut it at 3 months old!


Well, Josh's hair is still "filling in" - the faux-hawk is no longer apparent, but the hair from that original growth is quite long now. So, I decided it was time for his first haircut.

Thankfully(!!), this experience was NOTHING like the experience we had cutting Nikita's nails that one time, but it's quite unnerving to hold sharp scissors to your child's head as he constantly moves it back and forth, up and down, around and around. On top of that, I also have to keep the scissors out of his line of sight - because you know that the minute he sees them, he's going to want to get his little mitts all over the shiny, cool, metal thing that Mom is holding, and they probably taste good too! Yikes!


But the end result turned out not too bad. It was pretty successful for a first haircut. There was no fancy texturizing and layering, but he no longer has long stringy pieces hanging down the middle of his forehead and wisps of hair covering his ears. And, of course, I saved a lock of his hair and put it in a dated envelope entitled "Hair from 1st Haircut". I wonder what that will look like 30 years from now?!

hit and run

The culprit, in this case, is no bigger than a pen! Or I guess the REAL culprit is 2.5 feet tall and throws anything that he can get his hands on!

Josh and I were enjoying a Sunday morning together in the kitchen. I would push his Hot Wheels car across the floor, making "vrrooom" sounds and he, in a game popularized by dogs called "fetch", would run after the car, pick it up and give it back to me. He thought it was hilarious; he would pick up the car, howling with delight, and run back to me so I could do it again.

Well, the last time around, he was running back to me and was so over-excited that when he got to me, instead of handing me the car, he threw it at me. Got me right in the lip. Boy, did that smart. Of course my first reaction was anger and to yell. But I took a few deep breaths, walked away and remembered that he didn't do it on purpose. I looked in the mirror and already had a fat, bloody lip.

So, the lesson I learned is to stay away from Josh's pitching arm when he is holding a deadly weapon. Other than that, can someone tell me how you can get a 1-year-old to stop throwing everything that he gets in his hands?!

Happy Birthday, Joshie

Exactly a year ago to the minute, I was in much pain. Brian was driving us to St. Paul's and I was constantly yelling at him to slow down and stop going over bumps. I remember it well. It was the day of the big wind storm in Vancouver that took down trees in Stanley Park that were over 200 years old. We had no clue what was going on outside. We only knew about the storm because the water in the hospital toilet was brown and we were told not to drink the tap water.

Josh was born at 6:36pm a year ago today. I'm sure that I will be going through snip-its of "at this time a year ago, I was..." throughout the day. They say that you forget. I haven't forgotten. I still remember the pain. I still remember the confusion and frustration of breastfeeding and jaundice in the days that followed. I still remember the extreme exhaustion in the weeks that followed. I remember the loneliness and sadness of baby blues and I remember the helplessness when I didn't know what to do. It was the most difficult time of my life. Would I do it again? In a heartbeat.

If you had asked me a year ago whether I thought I could love someone this much, I wouldn't have known what you were talking about. Children are magical. I see Brian light up everytime he sees Josh and it's the best feeling. We are so blessed to have Josh.

And I can't believe that he has changed so much in just one year! Compare photos from when he was born with these photos from the past month. Not only is Josh practically running around, but his squats put even the best yoga instructors to shame - he's very bendy! (That was for you, Bri!)... He is learning to brush his teeth (or knaw on his toothbrush anyway!)...
Nikita is enjoying Josh's company more and more (or at least she's making it look that way!)...
And he's learning to use facial expressions and make noises to get what he wants (not that it would take much with us!)...
It's been an unforgettable experience being first-time parents. I can't wait to see what the next year brings. Happy 1st Birthday, Joshie. We love you more than you'll ever know!

family values and the value of family

My maternity leave officially came to an end on October 31st. I contemplated whether I should blog about this because it has been such an emotional time for me.

My first year of motherhood has been the highlight of my life. The adjustment was very difficult for me and I never thought I would get through it, but at some point it all changed. I loved having the year to spend entirely on my family.

I'm fortunate that my workplace was generous enough to let me come back part time. I appreciate it because I feel valued as an employee - they are being flexible to meet my needs. I know that some moms do not have a choice and my heart aches for them. As hard as it was to go from working full-time to staying at home full-time, I think it would be much more difficult to go from staying at home full-time to working full-time.

Yesterday was my first day back at work. I agonized over going back and it turned out to be okay. Dropping Josh off at daycare would have been the worst part. That would set the tone for the day. As it turned out, we walked into daycare, I put him down and he immediately ran over to a group of boys playing with Duplo. When I kissed him good-bye, he barely acknowledged me. I felt like he would be okay. Phew!

Work was a whirlwind! It's super busy, as always, and it was nice to catch up with my co-workers. In some ways, it felt like I never left, but in others, I couldn't believe the changes. It's a great place to work and I'm really lucky that I enjoy my job.

Despite all that, I still feel a sense of loss at not being at home full-time with Josh anymore. Many moms call it guilt and I can totally identify with that! I feel like I'm relinquishing some of the control I have in how my son grows up. There is someone else, a complete stranger, helping to mold the person that my son becomes. Though we ultimately chose what daycare we put our kids in, sometimes we don't have a choice (that's why it is a daycare "crisis") and do we REALLY know the people that we leave our kids with? Unless they are a family member or a friend who is already a parent, how do we really know whether they will teach our kids the way we want them to?

So, why don't I stay home full-time? Well, this is "choice" that Brian and I have made for our family. It is a choice that I agonize over and it brings up a need vs. want issue that Brian and I have spent the last year debating. It has made me question family values - not only our family values but the way we value families in our society. But I don't think that this is a proper forum for me to discuss this issue :-)

little chicken little

No, the sky is not falling, even though we had our own chicken little running around. Josh celebrated his first Hallowe'en in comfort and style! Man, I remember the plastic costumes we used to wear OVER our snowsuits and then the awful plastic masks which would get all wet on the inside from your breath. How did we ever survive?!

Well, even on the coldest day, I don't think Josh would need any additional layers in this costume. It's from Old Navy and it is definitely nicer than any costume that I ever remember wearing! We had a couple of Hallowe'en parties this year, in addition to tonight, so Josh got alot of use from his costume. I'm contemplating making the top part his winter jacket! Hahaha...

Josh's impression of a chicken ninja at the DWW Wrap-up/Hallowe'en Party...

Chicken Little and the rest of the kooky farm at Susanne and Chris' house...

The chicken carries around the cow...

neti veti

I watched an episode of Oprah where an audience member demonstrated the use of a neti pot to help clear nasal passages. It looked kind of odd, but anyone who knows me knows how much I suffer from allergies. So, in my most recent episode of allergy hell, I decided to try out the neti pot.

It felt very weird. I had to do some fine tuning on the tilt of my head so that the saltwater came out my other nostril and not the back of my mouth (as with post-nasal drip). But once I got it, there was water free flowing into one nostril and out the other - REALLY weird! Also, when I finished and tilted my head back upright, my ears started popping. So, I guess something was indeed being flushed out!

My nasal passages feel pretty cleared up right now. But, I've only done it once and the instructions say you have to use it daily as a preventative measure. So, I reserve judgement at this point. I'm not sure if I can commit to doing it daily, but I'll try to do it for at least a few days in a row so I can have a bit of allergy relief this time around...